Narcissistic abuse is a pattern of behaviours that includes verbal, emotional, and physical abuse. It’s often characterized by the abuser’s lack of empathy or interest in the needs of her victim, who may be someone they know or don’t know at all.

Narcissistic Abuse is a type of emotional abuse where the abuser only cares about themselves, and may use words and actions to manipulate their victim’s behaviour and emotional state. 

They may seem perfect at first. They can seem caring and will even love bomb you. People often will doubt the abuse took place at all.
The abuser has started a smear campaign. The victim may have trouble making decisions, feel isolated, feel like they have done something wrong, and experience feelings of anxiety and depression.

Some of the strategies and behaviours abusers may use are:

Triangulation: When the abuser uses this tactic, they will try to pull a third person into the conflict to reinforce their own opinion or position.
Gaslighting: When the abuser uses this tactic, they get the victim to doubt your own perspective and reality by twisting facts.
Hoovering: When the abuser uses this tactic, it often involves attempts to reconnect and pull the vicitm back into the relationship.
Silent Treatments: This behaviour becomes manipulative when someone purposely ignores you to control you or make you feel isolated.
Scapegoating: When the abuser uses this tactic, all the blame is placed on one family member.
Passive Aggression: When the abuser uses this tactic it may look like, indirect blame, shifting, sabotage and sarcasm.
Intimidation and Threats: Abusers may threaten or try to intimidate their victims. 

Unpredictable Behaviour: Abusers may exhibit very unpredictable and reactive behaviours. 

Effects of Narcissistic Abuse

  • Intense guilt or shame
  • Intense loneliness or disconnection from others
  • Symptoms of PTSD
  • Low self-esteem or lack of sense of self

How to Overcome Narcissistic Abuse

When you’re the victim of narcissistic abuse, it can be hard to know what to do next. But there are some things you can do:

  1. Find out more about narcissistic abuse and learn how to recognize patterns in your relationships.
  2. If possible, try leaving the abusive relationship.
  3. Seek support from friends or family members who care about you.
  4. Call your local domestic violence hotline for resources in your area and get help from professionals.
  5. Talk to a mental health professional to help you heal from abuse and lead you through your recovery journey.

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